When to Walk Away from a Relationship
Knowing when to walk away from a relationship can be tough especially when the person you are walking away from is a family member, partner, or a person you have a close relationship with.
However it is important to know that for a relationship to work out in the long run, involved parties have to remain respectful of each other and grow the relationship together. Staying in a relationship because you feel you ‘owe’ a person their time or because you share the same blood is 💔 not a good enough reason to allow another person to trample on you.
There are a few types of abuse in relationships, the main categories are:
Physical
Verbal - using words to control, criticise, hurt and/or humiliate another person
Emotional - manipulating a person’s behavior through means of threatening, gaslighting, blaming
Signs to look out for (if you suspect you are on the receiving end):
🚪 Isolating self: not wanting to interact with others
🍴 Change in appetite:
suddenly losing appetite or
feeling the need to eat so you don’t feel the emotions
💤 Disrupted sleep patterns:
sleeping for long periods of time but still feeling tired
not being able to sleep even after lying in bed for hours
Having persistent nightmares
🫥 Experiencing fluctuations in mood:
Easily irritable
Feeling extremely blue out of a sudden
Uncontrolled anger
☠️ “Walking on thin ice” around the ‘abuser’
😔 Don’t believe you deserve better treatment
🔂 Retraumatisation:
Even after a hurtful event, the same scene and dialogue is played in your mind
Signs to look out for (if you suspect a loved one is being abused):
💭 Withdrawn behavior: disengage or losing focus when in a conversation. Not very keen on interacting with others.
🩹 Unexplained injuries
Appearing unhealthy:
Looking sickly
Not taking care of personal appearance
Wearing long sleeves to cover up injuries
Apologising frequently
👀 Is wary when being around ‘abuser’
Losing confidence
Finding faults with themselves
While the above pointers are not exhaustive and signs of abuse are different for different individuals, it is crucial to know that when a person hurts you on a consistent basis that itself is a red flag.
Speak to a trusted individual and share your concern. What you need is support from the right people. Keeping things to yourself may harm you further because you think you deserve such treatment (and that is not the case). Calling your local helpline or speaking to a professional is another way to seek advice.
Oftentimes when a victim is trapped in such a cycle of abuse, they lose the capability to remember that they do not deserve such treatment.
You need to be safe and you need to be in relationships that are good for your mental, emotional and physical wellbeing. Help is available to you.
I am Carina, a certified Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) practitioner. This blog is written to educate and empower individuals who are on their own path of healing journey. If you would like to dive deeper into knowing what triggers you, why others are constantly having their way with you, having a 1:1 RTT session can help you identify the root cause.
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