Overcoming Anxiety

Does this sound familiar? You’re next to present in a group setting and you feel the butterflies in your stomach. Paying attention to the current speaker is not helping you feel any less relieved, neither does checking the time on your watch, or taking another sip of water from your cup.

Because you felt anxious, you took a break and escape to… the toilet.

You are not alone. Recent survey* showed 42% of people escapes to the bathroom to feel calm. That equates to every 4 persons in a group of 10 people.

The reason behind our feelings of anxiousness or nervousness is due to the story we play in our minds.

“they will hate my presentation and I will lose my job”, “this pain in my knees is killing me, the doctor will call for an operation and that is depressing”, “my kids are driving me nuts, and all these people in the public are going to judge me for being a useless parent”.

Whatever you place focus on, you get more of. By placing attention on these false fear-based story, we behave in a way that increases our chance of having the unwanted scenario happen to us.

When we get anxious, it is possible to encounter the following:

• Mental fog

• Lack concentration

• Difficulty in making decision

• Lack proper reasoning

• Stomach issues – feeling the butterflies

• Incessant overthinking  

• Feeling easily irritable

• Feeling different

• Feeling disconnected with others

Here’s what you can do:

Sit yourself down in a safe environment, take out a journal and question the thoughts, feelings, beliefs or story you’re experience with the following question prompts:

1. Is what I’m thinking true?

2. Has the worst situation happened already?

3. What can I do if the worst situation happens?

4. What are the other possible situations that can happen?

5. What’s the best situation that can happen?

6. What are the chances that the bad/ neutral/ good situations can happen?

7. Am I overthinking?

8. How can I calm myself and choose a better thought now?

9. What thoughts will serve and support me right now?

Here’s how RTT can help:

Anxiety is the activation of the fight/flight mechanism, usually resulting from a triggering thought or circumstance, after deep breathing to activate the parasympathetic nervous system (rest and relax system), you’ll be guided to observe your current circumstances, reminded that you are safe in the present moment. Instead of trying to change the behaviour and symptoms you’re experiencing, in an RTT session, you’re offered the lens to look at the root cause, the main beliefs causing anxious symptoms to arise. When we are able to solve the root reasons for anxiety, it’s symptoms will naturally cease to be effective.

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Anxiety is often a fear of not being in control. Yet, no one has any control. The only thing you can control is your thoughts. Your thoughts control your feelings, your feelings control your actions and your actions control your events.

The law of control begins and ends with your thinking. When you take control of your thinking, you stop being anxious.

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Reference:
*https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/bathroom-survey-peace-and-quiet-b1920534.html