you’re NOT helpless
If you have been feeling purposeless in life – lost your sense of direction, motivation, going through the motions, this might be a sign that it’s time to level up your ambition!
In the overworked culture we live in, we are oftentimes burned out and stressed with all that needs to be done. Yet, can you recall the first period of time when these all took place? It could be starting a new career, getting into a new relationship, beginning a new health routine – there is excitement!
Days, weeks, and months passed, and you start to feel unfulfilled, stagnant, or even resentful for the responsibilities you have to bear.
Changing your perspective can be the solution to this lack of energy, vibrancy in your life. Here are some questions I’d like you to ponder on. Grab a journal, your favourite beverage and start brainstorming away:
1. Are you dreaming enough?
When was the last time you felt hopeful towards embarking on a new project/ hobby/ networking with others? Have you been working tirelessly to make ends meet that you forget to enjoy life a little? While we live in a society where it is beneficial to be realistic, it is crucial that we all have dreams that inspire us to go further in life.
Just like Tiana in the movie “The Princess and The Frog” we all have responsibilities and duties to fulfil. There are bills to be paid, and tasks to be done. We can feel tired and stressed out easily if we don’t have something that inspire and motivate us to keep going.
What do you dream of? What lightens up you at the thought of it? Allow yourself to dream of infinite possibilities!
2. Are you communicating your needs?
Do you sometimes feel resentful that others are not giving you what you need? It could be an acknowledgement of your efforts, show of support for your small business, a day-off from caregiving … the list goes on. It is commonplace for us to assume that others should know the workload we have, how stressed we are and then offer us support without us asking for it. When you think about it, is it really fair though – to expect others to know when we need support and the kind of support they need to provide us? If we zoom out a little, we would notice that our loved ones have their own responsibilities and concerns too. What would help the situation is to voice out when you need help and to give clear direction on the sort of help you would love to receive.
3. Are you exploring your options?
When was the last time you did something “just for fun”? It has been ingrained within us that we should only be curious, learn about and explore new inventions, technological advancements or pick up a new course if it brings us financial benefit at the end of it all. Such a calculative mindset tires out your mind. Additionally, you might have had talent for certain artistic ventures but you’ll never know if you don’t give yourself the opportunity to see for yourself what you can create if you only choose to limit yourself to learning about skills that the marketplace needs. For instance, if Frida Kahlo had given in to the traditional expectations of women in her era we might not see notable artworks like “The Two Fridas” or “The Broken Column”. Art and music are forms of self-expression, without artists and creatives we might struggle to understand how universal our experiences are.
4. Are you nourishing yourself?
If you’re a caregiver of some sort you would know how tiring it is to constantly be giving to others. You might be a teacher, a parent, a social worker, an empath and all you are concerned about is how others are benefitting from the service, care and love you provide for them. Now, are you giving back to yourself the same amount of care, attention and love that you so readily give to others? This is a question that you can dive deep into. What do you need most to feel safe, to feel grounded, to feel like everything is ok? – give yourself that which you need.
I understand that on most occasions when someone mentions how tired they are we are now quite to label that as being burned out. Yet there are so many other layers that go beyond just feeling burned out. You are not helpless, you are in fact capable of figuring things out. Dive deep into the reflective questions above and change your approach in life. Ask for help when you need it. Specify the type of support you need. Explore what the world has to offer you, dream big and do things that fill your cup. Cater to your needs and put that smile back on your face!
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By communicating directly with your subconscious mind, you can uncover what’s truly making you feel unhappy, draining your energy and empower yourself to paint a different outcome for your future.
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