How to Handle Rejections
What happens when you’re rejected by someone you respect, admire, by a company or by your closest friends for sharing an idea you strongly believe in?
Do you lash out and tell them they are wrong or do you fall into self-doubt mode?
Rejections can get the better of us ONLY if we allow them to.
In this blog I share with you 5 mindset shifts to handle rejections like a pro:
1. Self-Awareness
It's important to have a deep understanding of who you are. Take some time to identify your values, priorities, and what truly matters to you. This self-awareness will give you confidence when expressing your ideas or opinions, as you'll have a solid foundation to draw from.
Knowing yourself well will also protect you from negative criticism or judgments from others who may not share your perspective. With this self-assurance, you can speak your truth without seeking validation or approval from others. This clarity will help you identify what you truly want and why you want it.
2. Growth Mindset
Instead of feeling offended by someone else's disagreement with your perspective, be curious and interested in why they feel differently. Approaching the situation with an open mind allows you to learn something new or gain a different perspective.
Approaching rejection from a growth mindset can give you the drive and courage to try new things. You will come to understand that even a lack of skill or knowledge does not limit you because you have the mentality to seek information and be resourceful.
When you step out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself to learn, you grow and gain more self-respect. This increased self-respect reduces the need to convince others to validate or support your ideas because you know that every opinion is valid. You become curious about understanding things from a different perspective.
3. Seek Validation from the Right People
It's important to recognize that the person giving you advice may not always be the most qualified to do so. Often, we seek guidance from those we trust, rather than those with relevant experience or expertise.
For instance, if your parents have spent their entire careers working traditional 9-5 jobs and you're interested in pursuing entrepreneurship, they may not be the best source of business advice, despite their care and desire for your success. Instead, seeking guidance from an experienced business coach who has been through the trenches of starting a business would be a more effective choice.
4. Praise Yourself
Self-praise works so much better than getting complimented by another because there is no agenda attached. When you praise yourself there is no hidden reason other than you wanting to feel good about yourself.
Praising yourself boosts your self-esteem more than receiving an affirmation from your boss, co-worker, partner or child. When you praise yourself and you let in praise, you grow in confidence and self love. You reduce the inclination to seek external validation because you simply don’t need them.
5. Appreciate your Experiences and what you can Potentially Offer the World
We can often be our worst critic. What we are an expert at, we might believe the majority of the society has the same knowledge as us but that’s not the case!
We all come to this world with a gift within us - whether it’s musical talents, the ability to be an active listener or to be an amazing sports player we all have something special within us. Just because we’re good at something doesn’t mean everyone else is good at it.
Acknowledge your strengths and give yourself credit for the things you do right. When you see yourself for the goodness that you are, you rely less on others to approve of you.
Pop the champagne because now you’re well equipped to deal with rejections! NOT that we enjoy receiving them 🤢, but hey do you know of a friend, colleague or a family member who would benefit from this blog post? Forward this link to them - they WILL be grateful to you!
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