When Life Forces You to Be Unavailable (And It Feels... Good?)
I woke up to a green flickering screen this morning – my phone had completely given up on me on what was supposed to be one of my busiest days. My first instinct? Panic. But then something unexpected happened.
I felt... relief.
For the first time in months, I didn't have to be the one setting boundaries. I didn't have to craft the "perfect" response to weekend work messages or wrestle with guilt over not replying immediately to someone's request. The universe had quite literally taken the choice away from me🤷, and honestly? It felt like freedom.
I found myself using Instagram DM to send one message to a colleague, letting them know I was temporarily unreachable for work matters. One message. That's it. The world didn't end.
I know you understand this feeling – that constant hum of responsibility, the weight of knowing others depend on you, the exhaustion that comes from being perpetually "on." Whether it's work messages on weekends, family members who need your help, or the countless small requests that fill your days, being available has become your default state.
But what if it doesn't have to be?
As my phone-free day unfolded, I realized how much mental energy I usually spend managing other people's needs and expectations. Without the constant ping of notifications, I could actually hear my own thoughts. Without the pressure to respond immediately, I could move through my day at my own pace.
The requests that felt so urgent in the morning? They waited. The world kept turning. People found other solutions.
I see you, the caregiver and ambitious overachiever , the one who has the highest expectations of themselves (more than anyone else), who replies to work emails at 11 PM because letting someone down feels unbearable.
The responsible soul who carries everyone else's expectations like a weight on your chest. You've built your identity around being dependable, available, the one others can count on.
But what if your worth isn't measured by your availability?
What if – just for a moment – you allowed yourself to imagine a day where:
Your phone was on airplane mode for a few hours
Work messages waited until Monday
Someone else handled the "urgent" request
You moved through your day responding only to your own needs
What would that feel like? Scary? Liberating? Both?
Reflection
Take a few minutes to sit with these questions:
What would a day of intentional unavailability look like for me? What fears come up when I imagine it? What relief might I find? What load could lift from my shoulders if I allowed others to wait, to find alternative solutions, to manage without me – even just for a few hours?
Sometimes the universe gives us exactly what we need, even when it comes disguised as a broken phone screen. Maybe today is your invitation to consider what gifts might be waiting in the space of unavailability.
You are worthy of rest, dear one. You are worthy of boundaries. You are worthy of a life where your value isn't measured by your constant accessibility.💫
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